it's totally okay #1

i'm trying something new! in addition to, or perhaps instead of?, my random unsolicited advicements (not a real word), i think i will also be randomly posting some it's totally okay's which is exactly what it sounds like - me, letting you know, out of the kindness of my heart combined with my undying love for you, that it's totally okay to do certain things that you may not be so confident to do.

are you ready? it's totally okay if you're not because we just gunna go ahead anyway like right now omg here we go!


1. it's totally okay to go see your favorite band, buy one of their sickass t-shirts and then straight up wear it the next day at brunch with the girls. no need to hide it or wait for a 'cooler' time. the next morning is as cool as it gets! that show was f'n awesome, you basically had a spiritual experience, you only fucked up singing the lyrics once, LET IT BE KNOWN! it's totally okay to be genuine and earnest and enthusiastic over the things you love than to be the negi, annoying, arms-crossed, totally-over-it opposite, i promise you this.

2. it's totally okay to not respond to a text or an e-mail right away, especially one that upsets you or causes you anxiety. we think things always have to be handled immediately but word up children, they don't! you can totally sit with something, think and talk it over with other people and respond at a later time (a few hours? days? whatever's needed!) instead of react right away. omg. did i just slamdunk your world into a thousand million pieces?? (plz don't answer right away.)

3. it's totally okay to listen to the same song on repeat for days at a time! do it til your heart is ready to move on or until your roommate has a kinda really scary meltdown all like IF I HEAR THAT FUCKING SONG ONE MORE TIME I SWEAR I'M GUNNA.. whatever comes first!

and finally,

4. it's totally okay to be "that guy" sometimes! i know, i know, no one wants to be "that guy" but check it: when i was 20 i was going through an insane led zeppelin stage. at this time, i took a train ride across the country by myself. i was wearing a robert plant t-shirt, listening to zep the whole ride (3 days) while reading hammer of the gods. i was totally "that guy" but guess what? I OWNED IT and subsequently HIT IT OUT OF THE PARK. i had sex with a 30 year old LUMBERJACK from MONTANA while the train passed through the midwest. he bought me A CHICKEN FRIED STEAK. i learned MAGIC TRICKS from a dude who claimed to have a ROCKET JETPACK at home. (why was he on a train if he had a rocket jetpack? #unansweredquestions) this guitar-wielding hippie would play "ramble on" every time i walked into the lounge car. they fucking loved me. they all called me "zeppelin girl' and i was! but it worked because i worked it. so go for it. do your thing. be "that guy" if it means owning the shit out of life.

xo forever
dani